As I was helping Elegant dry off after her shower last night, I noticed that she now has hair on her arms. It's medium brown and long. I didn't say anything to her, but she's obviously clairvoyant, because she told me that that she's embarrassed by it. She said she doesn't like to roll her sleeves up in art class in school because she doesn't want anyone to see how much hair she has.
She's seven years old.
The rational part of me says that Elegant needs to learn to live with being hairy and to be comfortable with herself just as she is. We've spent her entire life telling her how fabulous she is and how she's smart, funny, strong, healthy, talented, beautiful, and so on. We affirm her fabulosity on a daily basis.
But, she's seven years old. She doesn't want to be hairy.
I know EXACTLY how she feels. Once when I was in middle school, I shaved the hair off my arms because I hated it so much. (Not a wise way to do it, I know.) I could go get a bottle of Nair this week and take care of El's hirsuteness in about 10 minutes.
But, she's seven years old. A bit young to start the cycle of hair removal. And, once we start with the arms, we'd have to maintain the hairlessness, plus what's to say she won't ask to get rid of the fur on her legs?
And what kind of message am I sending both of my girls? Sorry girls, hair on women just isn't acceptable in this society. You need to remove it in order to conform to society's expectations of beauty. Mmm, I don't think so.
What do y'all think?